Sexuality, and the terms we use to describe our sexual orientation, is constantly evolving. In recent years, more terms have emerged that help us better describe our experiences and attractions. It’s helpful to learn and understand, so we can affirm and support others in how they identify. One of these terms is cupiosexual, which exists on the asexual spectrum.

“Cupiosexuality refers to an individual who does not experience sexual desire, but still wants a sexual relationship,” Ted Lewis (they/them), Youth and Families Director at the Human Rights Campaign, explains.

Like other microlabels that fall under the asexual umbrella — such as graysexual and demisexual — cupiosexual represents the level of sexual attraction that someone experiences. So if you’re cupiosexual, you want a sexual relationship, but don’t feel sexual attraction to others. To better understand what it means to be cupiosexual, we’re breaking down everything you should know, including signs you might be cupiosexual and how it relates to other asexual identities.

What are some signs that you might be cupiosexual?

The biggest sign that you might be cupiosexual is that you rarely experience sexual attraction. You might first identify as asexual, but as you have more experiences and potentially engage in new relationships, you feel that cupiosexual better defines your sexuality. Even though you crave or desire a sexual relationship, you lack feelings of sexual attraction.