You see what i have been saying ....... about families .......all of then are fucked up !!!!!!.....somehow...... into the fabric of family.........is problems ......mines ........was fucking disgusting!!!!! .....not my mum and dad ....... no ........ i was truly and godly blessed!!!!!!.......with two great parents ..........they were strict enough to control us ....... but were really lax in our freedom ......and i know when growing up .........my sisters hated me on some level ......and to be perfectly honest .....i never ever wanted sisters ........ or a brother....... even ......i hate siblings on every level .....but you know tradition .....and in them days........ it was the thing to have families ......everyone had families .....i never........ ever ....wanted a family....they always lie ......... and parents have to lie .......in order to keep the family.....and that is no lie ....listen......... all the bullshit .........with easter bunny/xmas....(/crimbo as brits would say )/halloween /the stupid fucking stork baby shit .......so on......... and so forth !!!!!!.....parents have to lie to kids from the get go !!!!!...... about life ....... denial!!!! .....and shit !!!!! ......listen .........i am only saying it as i saw the bullshit growing up ......i would not have minded being an only child for sure ........i never ever really liked people growing up ........saw all the shit i needed to see in Scotland ........let me you....... all the drinking/religious horse shite/fighting ........and it does leave a mark on your soul .........
I truly believe when i see a family playing happy families ........i am suspicious as fuck ......there is always one fucking shit starter/black sheep ....... somehow ......even in the royals ... ...randy andy (epsteins buddy you know the corgi walker ).....can you imagine being a prince one minute ........walking corgis the next ........ the mighty have fallen ...... ,.....and i am sure William is not squeaky clean neither ........ look at chuck and di ....yep sirree bob........... thee royals ......you see how that shit ended in the end !!!!!!!! ......
As you see .....i am not surprised by this ......always ....... some dark secrets....... come out of the closet ....especially after death ........that is when the real shit starts to william/willliam tell/smell.......so if you are surprised.........i am surprised .........you are surprised .....
INTERESTING FACT
Interesting fact !!!!!!!! .....the Nobel, peace prize ....... was invented by the feller Alfred Nobel ......he was also ......the very same guy........ that invented dynamite......... all sorts of explosives and armaments....... .......funnily called at one point a "merchant of death"...... ...well golly sirrreee fuck my old boots ....... smack me with a banjo ......is that not opposing diametrics........ if you ever saw .......love and peace at it's very very best .......well i guess after you invent something..... ...that literally annihilates murders and burns alive children ,,and innocent lives ....... and murders thousands of people .......you get a conscience apart....... from the American govt !!!!!! ....no sir!!!!!they drop bombs every 20 minutes appeox........give or take a few mins .....with bombs costing quarter of a million bucks .....nothing personal .......it's business .....not for the average joe of course .......in case you did not know about the Nobel peace prize you do now.....good to use at these fake ass dinner parties for conversation ...will make you sound like a smart ass ...although the bomb thing ...maybe not !!!!!!........
Isn't it cowardly .....people wait till someone dies ........then rat them out!!!!!!!! .....could not let the secrets die with them ......there might be that odd exception.......... like child molestation .......in where they deserved to fucking die........ for sure ....... ....and get revealed ......... but why were they not confronted......... when they were alive !!!!! ......you see human beings ............ the old appendage .......like in my family always used to use ......"don't say anything you will start trouble "........yep that was the mantra .......however thus why i cannot stand family ........
Weeks After Alice Munro’s Death, Daughter Tells of Dark Family Secret
Andrea Robin Skinner, a daughter of Canadian Nobel laureate Alice Munro’s, said that her stepfather sexually abused her as a child — and that her mother knew about it, and chose to stay with him anyway.
Skinner, now an adult, detailed these accusations in an essay in the Toronto Star on Sunday. According to a separate article in the Toronto Star, Skinner went to Ontario police, and in 2005, her stepfather, Gerald Fremlin, was charged with indecent assault against her. He pleaded guilty.
By then, he was 80 years old. He got a suspended sentence and probation for two years. Munro stayed with him until he died in 2013.
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Because of her mother’s fame, Skinner wrote, “the silence continued.” Munro died May 13 at 92.
“What I wanted was some record of the truth, some public proof that I hadn’t deserved what had happened to me,” Skinner wrote of going to police in 2005, about 30 years after the abuse began.
“I also wanted this story, my story, to become part of the stories people tell about my mother,” Skinner continued. “I never wanted to see another interview, biography or event that didn’t wrestle with the reality of what had happened to me, and with the fact that my mother, confronted with the truth of what had happened, chose to stay with, and protect, my abuser.”
Attempts to reach Skinner on Sunday were unsuccessful.
Skinner wrote that the abuse began in 1976, when she was 9 years old and went to visit Fremlin, then in his 50s, and her mother, who was in her 40s. She said he climbed into the bed where she was sleeping and sexually assaulted her. Skinner said she told her stepmother, who then told Skinner’s father. Her father did not confront Munro.
During the next several years, Skinner wrote, Fremlin exposed himself to her in car rides, described her mother’s sexual needs and “told me about the little girls in the neighborhood he liked.” According to the article in the Toronto Star, he lost interest in Skinner when she became a teenager.
Over time, Munro’s reputation as an author grew. When she died, she was widely considered to be one of the greatest short-story writers of all time. Her work often focused on women in different stages of life, mixing “ordinary people and extraordinary themes,” according to her New York Times obituary. She was awarded the Nobel in 2013 when she was 82.
When Skinner was in her 20s, Munro expressed sympathy for a character in a short story who dies by suicide after being sexually abused by her stepfather. It was after this, Skinner wrote, that she decided to tell her mother about the abuse she suffered.
In a letter, she told her mother what Fremlin had done to her. Rather than responding with sympathy, Skinner said, Munro “reacted exactly as I had feared she would, as if she had learned of an infidelity.”
Munro left Fremlin, going to stay at a condo she owned in British Columbia. Fremlin wrote letters to the family, Skinner said, in which he admitted to the abuse but blamed it on her.
When she went to police in 2005, she took these letters.
“He described my 9-year-old self as a ‘homewrecker,’” Skinner wrote. According to Skinner’s essay and the article in the Toronto Star, Fremlin accused her of invading his bedroom “for sexual adventure" in one of the letters he wrote to the family.
“If the worst comes to worst I intend to go public,” Fremlin wrote, according to Skinner’s essay. “I will make available for publication a number of photographs, notably some taken at my cabin near Ottawa which are extremely eloquent ... one of Andrea in my underwear shorts.”
Despite all this, Skinner wrote, Munro went back to Fremlin and remained with him for the rest of his life.
“She said that she had been ‘told too late,’” Skinner wrote, that “she loved him too much, and that our misogynistic culture was to blame if I expected her to deny her own needs, sacrifice for her children and make up for the failings of men. She was adamant that whatever had happened was between me and my stepfather. It had nothing to do with her.”
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