This line is right up my street ....dating.......and 60 yr olds !.....well i have to say i am 66....... OAF........and would certainly not date a 60 yeAr old .....why! becasue i am shallow as fuck i like about 40-ish .....ghnadi says........ a 60 year old man ...... must date a woman half his age plus 7! ......that is good enough ...even though i never ever like ghandi ....i think he was a bullshitter like mother theresa .....people folls still love thse old lying cogers ......hey whatever gets you off !!!!!......listen it is a tough world out there .....when a man ...when an old guy wants fresh cunt/pussy/vag/birth canal/.......he wants a younger bint ....... in case he wants to knock her up ....old ladies their eggs are fucking gone ......it's just a plain fact .....but why would want to start a fucking family about 60 ...... but there is some old guy ....... fall for that macho horse shite ...... look at pres ....but brron has a great life ....... but hey fucking its money...younger bitches want an older guy.......he has security ...... and that is just a fact ,.....don't hate the player ...... hate the game as i always say ......
Boomer women are dating after divorce. Men don’t always meet their standards.
"Baby-boom women setting divorce record" read the headline in The Washington Post. According to a 1992 study of U.S. Census data, women between the ages of 30 and 44 were "more likely to be divorced at some time in their lives than any group in American history."
The generation of women that brought us the sexual revolution and women's liberation also ushered in a new era of the American divorcée.
High divorce rates among boomer women have continued after the 1990s. According to an analysis of U.S. Census data conducted by Bowling Green State University, the annual divorce rate among Americans 65 and older more than tripled between 1990 and 2023. Today, nearly 1 in 6 seniors is divorced.
So what's it like to look for love as an older divorced person? Does a potentially larger dating pool make finding love easier? Are we living in a golden age for silver singles? How are they doing? And more specifically, how are they doing it? We reached out to several single seniors to find out.
Kristyne Haver, 69, dated for 18 solid years after she got divorced. "I was dating or semi-dating that whole time," Haver said from her office in Reading, Pennsylvania, where she works as a controller. "I've had some interesting situations."
For several years, she dated a dad in California who was separated from his wife but dragging his feet on getting divorced. On Facebook, she met another separated man in Missouri, but their online courtship ended when his wife started harassing her and her friends. She reconnected with a college boyfriend on LinkedIn who lived in Tampa, but ultimately decided that long-distance love wasn't for her.
"And of course, you get the younger guys looking for - what, a sugar mama or whatever?"
Not that Haver was opposed to age gaps. Over the years, she dated several younger men, including a Russian 25 years her junior whom she met in the parking lot of a grocery store, where she found him admiring her Porsche Boxster. A month into the relationship, he casually mentioned that the last woman he dated paid him $1,000 a month.
That's when she implemented a new rule: "I said, 'From now on, they have to have been born when Kennedy was shot.'"
Politics can be a dealbreaker
In 2019, after her 45th high school reunion in Iowa, Haver received an unexpected message from a high school friend. He had missed the reunion, but saw photos of her celebrating and reached out. "He, for some reason, just decided to look me up on Classmates.com of all places," she said with a shudder. "Horrible, horrible site," she said.
The online user experience was bad, but the conversation was good.
"I would get in great political discussions with him, because he was a dyed-in-the-wool Republican and I was as far from that as possible, especially now," Haver said. They married four years ago.
For other women we spoke to, political disagreement did not translate to romantic frisson. Pearson Brown, 63, recently ended a 10-year postdivorce relationship with a man over political differences.
"I knew his politics were different than mine, and we never really discussed politics very much," Brown said from her home in Warrenton, Virginia, where she works in pharmaceutical PR and advertising. "But as my primary partner, I'd say 'Groceries are high' or 'Gas is [expensive]' and it would become a political conversation. 'Pass the salt' became a political statement," she said.
In February of this year, it became too much. They went their separate ways.
The experience changed the way she now approaches online dating. "Some people say, 'No MAGA' and I'm like, 'Okay, fine,'" Brown said. "Before, I used to say, 'I don't like anybody saying "No something."' No fat, no smoke, whatever. But now I'm like, 'Okay, I just saved myself some time.'"
An unwillingness to settle
How much should you compromise as a woman dating later in life? And how much should you stand firm on?
"At this point, I have my house, I have my own space, I have my life," said Lacey Wootton, who retired from her job as a professor at American University in May 2025.
"It sounds small and petty, but I don't think it is: I have dinner when I want to have dinner, and if I want to watch something on TV, I do, or if I want to sit and read, I do," Wootton, 66, said. "And I have closet space."
Wootton agreed she sounded a little like Carol Burnett, who once told Joan Rivers, "If I ever got married again, he would have to live next door."
She's currently dating, and she's enjoyed some relationships with men that have lasted a few months. But her standards are high for settling down.
"If, by chance, I met someone who was really amazing, I would think about that compromise," she said. "But I'm also not hunting."
Wootton divorced amicably from her husband when she was 50. "I was really scared of being alone," Wootton said. But gradually, she acclimated to single life. Very well. Now, 16 years later, she's never been happier. She volunteers, she goes to the theater, she reads voraciously, and she has a circle of friends who share her interests. When we spoke, she was hours away from flying to Scandinavia for a two-week adventure.
She's not interested in a romantic partner who can't keep up. "Men age more than women, and I don't want to be a 72-year-old nursemaid," she said.
Wootton has also found that age does not necessarily bring maturity. She's been ghosted and flaked on more times than she can count. "Some of those habits that older people maybe ascribe to younger people in terms of digital behavior, our age group does it, too," she said.
Keep an open mind, but watch for red flags
Online dating, it seems, can be unpleasant regardless of age. But Amy Schoen, a dating coach in Bethesda who caters to boomers, still thinks that the apps are the best way for seniors to meet each other.
"Eighty percent of my successful clients have met through online dating," Schoen said. The problem, she says, isn't the app itself but what your profile is communicating.
"You have to put your goals out there, that's the number one thing on the profile," said Schoen, 66. She advises her clients to think of their profile as a "30-second infomercial" that clearly lists five to seven characteristics that you're looking for in a partner. She also recommends that her clients share these traits with their friends so that they can act as "scouts" to round up potential matches.
The most serious challenge Schoen's clients face is online romance scammers who target single women. Part of her coaching involves looking out for red flags like refusing to meet in person or on video, love bombing, and introducing financial discussions early in the relationship. Of course, safety is the most important concern when it comes to dating at any age.
But Schoen also advises her clients to keep an open mind. After her own divorce, Schoen found great solace in the support group New Beginnings. She also discovered several new social groups, including Bike & Brunch, where she met her current husband. Schoen is a self-starter, a go-getter, a people person. Her husband is more introverted. She's glad she didn't let that stop her from dating him.
"One of the biggest mistakes people make is to be judgmental," Schoen said. Some of the most successful senior relationships she's seen have been between people from different backgrounds, different religions and different socioeconomic statuses.
"My clients who have a sense of adventure, who are willing to try things and go out there and expand their world seem to do better as a whole," she said. She has clients who ended up married but living separately. Others fell in love with partners who didn't seem compatible on paper. Some are dating with significant age gaps. And some of her clients are happy to just have fun.
"Now they're dating for themselves and their own enjoyment and their own needs," Schoen said. "Many people have been like, 'I've been there for my kids, I've been there for my partner, now it's my turn.'"
"It's a wild, wild world," she added.
Some seniors are wilder than others. For some boomers, the counterculture never straightened out and the sexual revolution never stopped revolving.
"I can tell you, there are girls in their mid-80s who are still in circulation, right?" said Renée Imperato, 78, from her apartment in Manhattan. "They're still bumping the hump, you hear me?"
When she was in her 20s, Imperato mostly dated older men. That is no longer the case.
"Sometimes younger people say, 'Renée, you're the queen, you're our elder, where are all the other people in your age group?'" said the retired Air Force veteran and longtime transgender rights activist. "And you know what my answer is? One word: AIDS."
Imperato has been married four times and has dated people of many genders. These days she "predominantly" identifies as a trans lesbian. She has "T4T" tattooed on her neck, signaling her preference for dating other trans people. And she's currently dating a couple several decades her junior. When we spoke, she was recovering from a foot injury and shingles. She refuses to let such things slow her down.
"Listen, honey, as long as I can do what I can do, I'm going to do it until I can't," Imperato said.
CORRECTION: A previous version of this article misspelled the Virginia town where Pearson Brown lives. It is Warrenton, not Warrington.
